Sex & Virginity

I don’t get what’s the deal with girls that wants to stay virgin until married. Convincing them that it’s okay to have sex is equivalent to convincing an elephant that it can fly. Seriously, what’s the big fucking deal? It’s just sex. And you have to have sex. Also, it’s healthy and perfectly natural. The ‘virginity’ doesn’t mean shit. What does it represent? Holiness? If that’s the case then it only applies to the religious ones. But the people I’m talking about here mostly are not so religious anyway. So what’s really going on here – other than some major hypocritical excuse?

They real deal is, they thought, if they give themselves to men and then one day if they get dumped, they’ll feel used and people will talk behind their backs about it. That’s their only concern. The religious bullshit is just a failed attempt at excusing themselves from having to expose the main reason behind this. I’m sure I’ll get the “you don’t know what it feels to be a woman” bullshit. There’s not much of a difference than being a man – to some extent. Women are not of other species or anything.

Some are just afraid to have sex because they have never done it. So they make the virgin thing ever so important and make it like they cared so much for it so that it could be an excuse to not have sex. They’ve heard stories that it hurts like hell the first time. And it even bleeds. Woo...scary. These girls, once they experience the real shit, they went nuts and some even became a sexaholic. I didn’t make that up, happened to someone I know – a few actually.

Some say that they’re okay with it but some men are not. So that’s what they’re afraid of. I don’t get it? It’s not like he’s going to divorce you when he finds out that you’re not a virgin on your first night. If he actually does that, then he’s not worth it – and deserves to die alone. He’s in just for sex and doesn’t give a shit about your feelings and can’t let go of the past. He’s going to be a lot more pain in the ass if he can’t let go of the past. So this could also be a test for men. If they really like you, they’ll stay no matter you’re a virgin or not. Also that’ll prove his honesty in the relationship.

Girls, let me try to loosen your mental block. Virginity means anything only if you give meaning to it. If you take away the “meaning” that you put on it in the first place – (well mostly other people put on it, you just go along without ever questioning it) – then it would most probably lost all its purpose. Stop living on other’s belief and start thinking for yourself you dumb fuck. The “meaning” that I’m referring to is of course the above mentioned statement in the second paragraph.

Here’s an analogy to further clarify my statement. Let’s say you like to fart, and people say it’s not appropriate to fart out loud in public. When you think about it, there’s nothing wrong with fart in the first place – until you met the people who said it otherwise. So you start to consent to their ‘belief’ that fart is no good when you did it out loud in front of people. You see where I’m getting at? What others say are not necessarily ‘true’, it’s just their opinion and – to some extent – a social norm. That is all.

All I’m saying is don’t let others make the decision for you. Start making your own decision – or your boyfriends’ for that matter. Sometimes relationship work out very well and other times it doesn’t. It has nothing to do with sex – at all. Break-ups don’t always revolve around sex.

Let’s put at it this way, sex is a win-win game. The men get their part of the pleasure and the women get their part. Where’s the unfairness of that? You will have sex one way or the other so why not experience it first before you decide to settle down. That way you’ll have better experience at sex and altogether it will enhance the pleasure of your sex life with your partner – or husband – in the future. Try it before you became old and ugly and thus put all your sexual attractiveness to waste. Your time is running out...make up your mind goddammit!!!